Does being surrounded by a wide circle of people, mean that you are a happy and friendly person? Do you think anything or anyone outside could be 100 percent responsible for your happiness or grief ?
Introspection : Am I alone?
Let’s understand this theory, for all the broad categories of people around – introverts, extroverts, over-friendly ones and the self consumed ones..
Because our soul is a whole, but sole property of us!
Hello, dear reader!
Welcome back to the journey of realising the unmet bestfriend. I hope you are doing well!
Recently, I have been into several conversations and debates regarding friend circles, groups, social media family and a bunch of other stuff related to a human being. While I was communicating with people, I realised that people had very valid questions related to life with/without friends. That is what motivated to frame this article, especially for all those who think that they are alone.
Ammmm….lemme ask you a basic question. Introspect and then answer it to yourself.
What is a friend?
Another one!
What role does a friend play?
This is the last one, I promise!
Are you, a good friend?
Now that you have answered all these questions, let’s analyse the possible answers and their importance.
I would never the significance of friends. A true friend, in my vision, is the one who is constantly helping you grow as a better human being by motivating, supporting and correcting you. The one who is always there by your side to listen. To summon you when you shatter. Who makes you smile. The one with whom you can be yourself, no justifications, no drama and no guilt! The one who forgives you in no time and gives his/her attention, time and concern regardless of anything. This friend is the one who understands you the best and hence, you feel that you need this person anyway!
Just imagine, if you could do all of this for yourself, won’t you be the unmet bestfriend that we are in search of?
Trust me, it is nearly impossible to find someone as perfect as this definition and harder to justify the definition by yourself! There was a time when we were kids, loving and innocent. Back then , friendship and all other relationships meant the entire world for us and could uphold them because they were selfless relations. As we grow up, our relationships become very purpose-centric and we end up losing its beauty in the process of extracting maximum benefit from it. This is also a reason , why our socialising abilities and bonds are shattering despite numerous developments in the interactive platforms. We have all the ways to connect (calling, texting, video calling and even easy travel opportunities) but still, we can notice a significant void!
I do agree that communication is crucial and one learns and grows better in a friend circle. The memories that we create and all the moments that we share are precious. But, at the same time, having that special bond within yourselves is equally important. It isn’t necessary to be surrounded by a bunch of people to be happy! If you crack the secrets to your own happiness then you can enjoy both, freedom and joy.
Because, for having a great friend, one must know how to be a great friend. For those, who aren’t very social and prefer staying in their comfort zones, don’t worry as this trait is God gifted. Though, I always stress on healthy socialising and increasing the human-to-human interactions. But lately, I also realised the importance of not always being a part of crowd.
People can enjoy their own company if they understand themselves well. Those who think that they cannot even understand themselves, then you got a homework to do! To connect with others and to make friends, one has to be sure that the process of responsibility, care and understanding must start within him/her first!
Try and have healthy and fruitful discussions with the people you can count on, you can always write a diary, if not talking to humans. Also, you can always self talk things that bother you. Opening up and understanding yourself will give you more confidence to face and tackle, difficult people and situations in a positive and appropriate manner.
But always remember that anything outside of you, cannot make you either sad or happy, if you don’t let it do so. To strike a perfect balance, the prerequisite is to generate a happy and stable bond within ourselves and then stimulate a healthy and ecstatic bond with the society and the universe!
Lots of love and lite!
Stay happy and carry yourself with grace and pride!
The Un-met BESTFRIEND 